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Within the 1st week he introduced me to his family and friends then we got intimate right after that, which is out of my norm. By the end of our 2nd week, I told him that we needed to slow things down to get to know each other better, he agreed, but began to withdraw from me immediately thereafter. I then asked if he was still interested, he said he was. What is he really trying to tell me? We get along great and had a lot of fun so far. I really like him a lot and want to continue.
I am sincerely and genuinely interested in people's literal take on it.
You've got to help me make a stand. You've just got to see me through another day. My body's aching and my time is at hand, I won't make it any other way. Originally Posted by Ghostly.
I have seen a few that met in the rooms and have a great relationship. I have also seen way more where it only ended bad and resulted in people going back out.
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I've done it and it never ended good. Today, I dont do it. I feel if one goes into any meeting with the intensions of hooking up, odds are very good it will happen.
Jan 14, Dating someone in AA? I'm 40 and for 3 weeks I've been dating this wonderful guy (late 40's) who is an AA member of 10 yrs. When we started dating things went a little to fast on his part, he wanted to spend everyday w/me. (Within the 1st week he introduced me to his family and friends then we got intimate right after that, which is out. Dec 15, Exception to the Rule: When AA and Romance Do Mix Written by Claire Buhay | last ated 15 December I'll admit it: When I was counting days in AA, the sexy people in my "home group" kept me coming back to cbeebies-games.com's a large, social . Sep 22, Blackwood said she began dating a man with nine months sobriety within her first weeks at AA, and later found out he was sleeping with dozens .
On the other hand, its also highly likely the goods will be odd. I met my friend in AA. He was going thru a Divorce and I really didn't think he was serious about the program, but I thought his wife would take him back. She was seeing him and had the new boyfriend on the side and then the new boyfriend bought her a car, and that was the end of the romance and divorce papers finally came in the mail a few years later.
He was seeing a girl on Saturdays for a number of years and another one on Tuesday nights during the week for drinks which worked out perfect for a while.
I felt like I was paying a babysitter though. He still refuses to stop drinking. Work left the picture and we have hit a bottom.
Carry the message not the MESS. I have always been against 'newcomers' coming in and getting into a relationship, and I myself being 24 having only almost a yr sober at the time and deciding for myself not to get engaged in any type of real meaningful relationship with a woman am now in a very unexpected relationship with a woman in the program, actually meeting her outside of the rooms so to speak.
We have a very healthy relationship and put our programs, spirituality first, and have some amazing conversations on topics pertaining to 'recovery' it has been more helpful than anything, so I believe there is a time and place but the people themselves are the overwhelming factors of course.
This one yr rule as you all probably know is not mentioned in the 'Big book', only a recommendation of the therapeutic community.
I have never been one to honestly go out seeking a relationship so in that regard it was easier for myself I believe to wait for the opportunity to present itself in a healthier manor, and I could not be happier with the outcome to this point. I am a newcomer. My take on it.
Dating a fellow aa member
I came into AA to recover and get my life together. I'm working on the recovery part first.
I have taken the steps and I am living them now. I'm starting to work on the getting my life together part. Dating is not real high on my list of things to do right now. I have put my will and my life in God's hands I have to have enough faith Whether in or out of the rooms.
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They say romance and finance send more people back out And I've seen it more than once. I think a lot of people come in with the idea of getting there life together and then working on recovery And that is a big mistake the way I see it. I enjoy deer hunting quite a bit.
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Ideally I want a deer to walk up to me at 8am while sitting in my deer stand ready for it and generally that is what happens.
Other times they just seem to come out unexpectedly when I am walking out of the woods. There ucbeebies-games.comedictable. After having married and and the middle of divorce my wife die from complications of addiction I said I would never date anyone in the rooms again.
I look at it this way, we are all damaged but two damaged doesn't equal a whole. Today I'm dating and know what real healtly relationships look and feel like. What they consit of and the heathly ones are out there. I'm going to post a link and well it is for more dating advice.
Do I settle because I want sex or really let a healthy one come into my life I think we can generalise too much sometimes. I'm not in AA but there are good people and not so good people everywhere, whether it's AA, a church, or in the street Same goes for relationships, surely? I reject the notion that I'm 'damaged' by virtue of my addiction. The whole point of my recovery is to be the best person I can be.
What I've been through has bought me to where I am now. I'm better and my 'picker's' a lot better too Both myself and my partner have a history of addiction but we're both in recovery admittedly neither of us AA. It's the best relationship of my life D. Originally Posted by Tosh. It's stupid and was probably first said as a joke.
Then I met Greg.
One of her exes eventually overdosed and died. Dating a fellow addict can feel a bit like betting with the odds against you. We get so many amazing tools in the program, and if you take them and run with them, then you can be a stellar human and the best version of yourself possible. It's very black and white. They may well be using other ways to 'act out' now that using or drinking is off the table.
My own experience with the program is that other addictions sometimes run rampant, morphing into other areas of their lives. Many people, when they finally get sober, develop issues with food, gambling, sex, and spending. It takes a lot of work and a lot of time to squelch it in all its myriad forms.
Natasha agrees. And, shockingly, I didn't stay sober. She also finds that leaving behind your addict identity can be helpful.
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He sees me as a smart, fun, sexy, loving mom who doesn't drink and who has changed her life. He asked me out two days later. Just days earlier, I had completed my Fourth Step a written inventory of all the people I harmed with my drinking. I was struck by how much my idea of the perfect guy had changed. Before sobriety, I was always seeking a partner who could party like I could But my sober list included traits such as honesty, respect and kindness.
Before sobriety, I was always seeking a partner who could party like I could.
I wanted the Sid to my Nancy. But my sober list included traits such as: honesty, respect and kindness. As well as the usual things people want, like intellect and a sense of humor. To my surprise, one of the attributes that emerged was affectionate. Also adventurous and sober. I wanted to date someone who was committed to becoming a better person, and passionate about their chosen career or vision.
A few weeks into seeing Greg, I knew he checked off just about all the boxes. But I was reluctant. After my last entanglement had ended, I was nervous to date someone else in AA. I weighed the pros and cons, but realized I liked Greg enough to take the risk. We live together and are co-parents to a wonderful dog. Though we share a home group, we try to keep our recovery and personal lives separate.
Greg has a policy of no-PDA at meetings, which he explained to me early on. I completely agreed.